Friday, August 20, 2010

Johnny Lingo's 8-Cow Wife


I remember reading this story in Readers Digest when I was in high school and I remember my Dad pointing it out to me.

I have thought about it often in the years since, but only recently found the text online.

Enjoy.

condensed from Woman's Day Patricia McGerr

When I sailed to Kiniwata, an island in the Pacific, I took along a notebook. After I got back it was filled with descriptions of flora and fauna, native customs and costume. But the only note that still interests me is the one that says: "Johnny Lingo gave eight cows to Sarita’s father." And I don’t need to have it in writing. I’m reminded of it every time I see a woman belittling her husband or a wife withering under her husband’s scorn. I want to say to them, "You should know why Johnny Lingo paid eight cows for his wife."

Johnny Lingo wasn’t exactly his name. But that’s what Shenkin, the manager of the guest house on Kiniwata, called him. Shenkin was from Chicago and had a habit of Americanizing the names of the islanders. But Johnny was mentioned by many people in many connections. If I wanted to spend a few days on the neighboring island of Nurabandi, Johnny Lingo would put me up. If I wanted to fish he could show me where the biting was best. If it was pearls I sought, he would bring the best buys. The people of Kiniwata all spoke highly of Johnny Lingo. Yet when they spoke they smiled, and the smiles were slightly mocking.

"Get Johnny Lingo to help you find what you want and let him do the bargaining," advised Shenkin. "Johnny knows how to make a deal."
"Johnny Lingo! A boy seated nearby hooted the name and rocked with laughter.
"What goes on?" I demanded. "everybody tells me to get in touch with Johnny Lingo and then breaks up. Let me in on the joke."
"Oh, the people like to laugh," Shenkin said, shruggingly. "Johnny's the brightest, the strongest young man in the islands, And for his age, the richest."
"But if he’s all you say, what is there to laugh about?"
"Only one thing. Five months ago, at fall festival, Johnny came to Kiniwata and found himself a wife. He paid her father eight cows!

I knew enough about island customs to be impressed. Two or three cows would buy a fair-to-middling wife, four or five a highly satisfactory one. "Good Lord!" I said, "Eight cows! She must have beauty that takes your breath away." "She’s not ugly," he conceded, and smiled a little. "But the kindest could only call Sarita plain. Sam Karoo, her father, was afraid she’d be left on his hands."
"But then he got eight cows for her? Isn’t that extraordinary?"
"Never been paid before."
"Yet you call Johnny’s wife plain?"
"I said it would be kindness to call her plain. She was skinny. She walked with her shoulders hunched and her head ducked. She was scared of her own shadow."
"Well," I said, "I guess there’s just no accounting for love."
"True enough," agreed the man. "And that’s why the villagers grin when they talk about Johnny. They get special satisfaction from the fact that the sharpest trader in the islands was bested by dull old Sam Karoo."
"But how?"
"No one knows and everyone wonders. All the cousins were urging Sam to ask for three cows and hold out for two until he was sure Johnny’d pay only one. Then Johnny came to Sam Karoo and said, ‘Father of Sarita, I offer eight cows for your daughter.’"
"Eight cows," I murmured. "I’d like to meet this Johnny Lingo."
"And I wanted fish. I wanted pearls. So the next afternoon I beached my boat at Nurabandi. And I noticed as I asked directions to Johnny’s house that his name brought no sly smile to the lips of his fellow Nurabandians. And when I met the slim, serious young man, when he welcomed me with grace to his home, I was glad that from his own people he had respect unmingled with mockery. We sat in his house and talked. Then he asked, "You come here from Kiniwata?"
"Yes."
"They speak of me on that island?"
"They say there’s nothing I might want they you can’t help me get."
He smiled gently. "My wife is from Kiniwata."
"Yes, I know."
"They speak of her?"
"A little."
"What do they say?"
"Why, just..." The question caught me off balance. "They told me you were married at festival time."
"Nothing more?" The curve of his eyebrows told me he knew there had to be more.
They also say the marriage settlement was eight cows." I paused.
"They wonder why."
"They ask that?" His eyes lightened with pleasure. "Everyone in Kiniwata knows about the eight cows?"
I nodded.
"And in Nurabandi everyone knows it too." His chest expanded with satisfaction. "Always and forever, when they speak of marriage settlements, it will be remembered that Johnny Lingo paid eight cows for Sarita."
So that’s the answer, I thought: vanity.

And then I saw her. I watched her enter the room to place flowers on the table. She stood still a moment to smile at the young man beside me. Then she went swiftly out again. She was the most beautiful woman I have ever seen. The lift of her shoulders, the tilt of her chin the sparkle of her eyes all spelled a pride to which no one could deny her the right. I turned back to Johnny Lingo and found him looking at me. "You admire her?" he murmured. "She...she’s glorious. But she’s not Sarita from Kiniwata," I said.

"There’s only one Sarita. Perhaps she does not look the way they say she looked in Kiniwata." "She doesn’t. I heard she was homely. They all make fun of you because you let yourself be cheated by Sam Karoo."
"You think eight cows were too many?" A smile slid over his lips. "No. But how can she be so different?"
"Do you ever think," he asked, "what it must mean to a woman to know that her husband has settled on the lowest price for which she can be bought? And then later, when the women talk, they boast of what their husbands paid for them. One says four cows, another maybe six. How does she feel, the woman who was sold for one or two?" This could not happen to my Sarita."
"Then you did this just to make your wife happy?"
"I wanted Sarita to be happy, yes. But I wanted more than that. You say she is different This is true. Many things can change a woman. Things that happen inside, things that happen outside. But the thing that matters most is what she thinks about herself. In Kiniwata, Sarita believed she was worth nothing. Now she knows she is worth more than any other woman in the islands." "Then you wanted -"
"I wanted to marry Sarita. I loved her and no other woman."
"But —" I was close to understanding.
"But," he finished softly, "I wanted an eight-cow wife."

Sunday, June 27, 2010

Beautiful Days

Have you ever had one of "those" days? The sky is blue and cloudless, not too hot, not too cold. A gentle breeze blows. No cares on your mind. Everyone is happy and healthy. You spend the day in whatever activity that brings you the most happiness. Your heart is full and feels as if it could bust out of your chest at any moment. As you drink in the deliciousness of the day, you wish that there was a way to stop time and just revel in this moment for a few decades.

Today is not that day.
And yet, God is still good. These fleeting moments only leave us longing for that Day when the moment of sheer joy will last for all eternity.

And yet, not just then, but now, our joy may be complete. Our joy is not tied to circumstances - to health or money or weather or leisure time. Our joy is rooted in the completed work of Jesus, who bids us to come and die that we might live in Him now and forever - in perfect joy fulfilling the role chosen for us before the foundations of the world.

Tuesday, April 6, 2010

Hosted Video Surveillance

Over at my company website - Digital Technology and Surveillance - we are rolling out our new Hosted Video Surveillance solution. This product is seriously a game changer!

I plan to cross-post my thoughts on the applications of this new technology this week. I am looking forward to your feedback.

Stay Tuned.

Thursday, April 1, 2010

Some Biblical Wisdom to keep in mind this "April Fool's Day."

Genesis 19:14 ESV So Lot went out and said to his sons-in-law, who were to marry his daughters, "Up! Get out of this place, for the LORD is about to destroy the city." But he seemed to his sons-in-law to be jesting.


Proverbs 10:23 ESV Doing wrong is like a joke to a fool, but wisdom is pleasure to a man of understanding.

Proverbs 26:18-19 ESV Like a madman who throws firebrands, arrows, and death 19: is the man who deceives his neighbor and says,
"I am only joking!"

Ephesians 5:1-6 ESV Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children. 2: And walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God. 3: But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints. 4:
Let there be no filthiness nor foolish talk nor crude joking, which are out of place, but instead let there be thanksgiving. 5: For you may be sure of this, that everyone who is sexually immoral or impure, or who is covetous (that is, an idolater), has no inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God. 6: Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience

John 8:42-47 ESV
Jesus said to them, "If God were your Father, you would love me, for I came from God and I am here. I came not of my own accord, but he sent me. 43: Why do you not understand what I say? It is because you cannot bear to hear my word. 44: You are of your father the devil, and your will is to do your father's desires. He was a murderer from the beginning, and has nothing to do with the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks out of his own character, for he is a liar and the father of lies. 45: But because I tell the truth, you do not believe me. 46: Which one of you convicts me of sin? If I tell the truth, why do you not believe me? 47: Whoever is of God hears the words of God. The reason why you do not hear them is that you are not of God."

Tuesday, March 30, 2010

A book every one should own: Grudem's

Every serious reformed would be theologian needs to have this book in their library. This is an accessible book for those just starting out.

Tuesday, August 4, 2009

Chargers Football - Training Warriors for Christ

As many of you know, our family has worked with the Chargers football program for a number of years. It has been a blessing to our family and I continue to be amazed at the work Jesus is doing in Derric's life in part because of his being a player for this team.

For those of you who may not be familiar with the program, The Lighthouse Christian Chargers football program offers the opportunity for both Christian-schooled and home-schooled young men to participate in Junior High, Junior Varsity and Varsity football.

In the proper context and rightly coached, organized team sports in general and football specifically offer unparalleled opportunities for the formation of Christian character.

It is a true statement, understood by those who have played or coached, that football is a metaphor for life. It is a controlled struggle, regulated chaos, and provides unmatched parallels to Christian life. God has given the Chargers an excellent coaching staff of dedicated, godly men who connect the struggles of football to the corresponding struggles of life.

It has been my privilege over the past number of years to watch not only my own son, but all of these young men grow in "wisdom and in stature and in favor with God and man."

Perhaps the greatest truth revealed to me by our association with the Chargers is this:

So often when we think of sports or any competition, we tend to motivate ourselves and our teammates with hate. We draw up a from a well deep with in ourselves a wave of anger and hate. We plot pain for those who oppose us.

Jesus - working through the Chargers - revealed a better way to me. It is the love of Christ that enables the Christian Warrior to stand and fight ( Eph 6:10-18 ). It is the love of Jesus in us for our teammates that motivates us to give our all for the common goal. And most counter-intuitively, it is the love of Jesus in us for our opponents that motivates us to do our dead level best so that they must do their best. Iron does in fact sharpen iron ( Prov 27:17 ), and faithful are the wounds of a friend. ( Prov 27:6 ).

For the first time in the history of the program, the Chargers will be able to play Missouri public school teams. It cannot be overstated how huge a step this is for the program, and the responsibility placed upon the players, coaches and parents as Ambassadors of Christ ( 2 Cor 5:20 ) to our local area.

In order to compete at this level, our program must step up in all areas. As you can well imagine this comes with some financial challenges. The program has always modeled good stewardship what resources God has provided. Many of the players and their families work extra jobs to provide money for player fees. Other families donate countless hours and equipment to help make this program a success. Our coaches take on the equivalent of an un-paid full time job in addition to working to provide for their families.

Would you prayerfully consider financially supporting the mission and ministry of the Lighthouse Christian Chargers? There are a number of pressing equipment needs that would greatly benefit the program. If you are interested in being a part of what Jesus is doing in the lives of many young men, please contact me via a comment to this blog, facebook, twitter, e-mail, or phone.

Come out and support the Chargers this season. Check out www.springfieldchristianchargers.com for our game schedule.

Make plans to join us as we open our season this year at Hollister High School on August 21st.